Tuesday, February 20, 2018

Hypnosis is for the Weak Minded?

I am often asked if a strong willed person can be hypnotized. The answer is usually, "Of course! It takes a strong will and mind, to recognize ones weaknesses and then choose to do something about them." Many people just sit with their traumatic experiences or lack of development in specific areas because it is easier to blame society, parents or that trauma, for disappointing life experiences.

When you want change you will create it. Sometimes this takes years even with a therapist, and other times you can't really identify what the problem is. Hypnosis is using your mind, to delve deeper into your life experiences and tendencies to remove obstacles, change behaviours and create a positive expectation where there wasn't one before. Having live sessions with a consultation or working through a program that takes you from messy to balanced can bring change within months. The beauty being,where this could otherwise prove painful, as well as time consuming, it is a peaceful and enlightening experience. Enlightenment is understanding, it doesn't matter how much you know about an experience, in fact knowing doesn't necessarily change anything. What does matter is understanding that experience, this could be understanding that it wasn't you, but another persons issues that visited you. Even a bad choice of where you might be, or a response that evoked an attack in some way, doesn't make another persons behaviour toward you, your fault.

If you have had poor role models, you are more likely to engage in poor behaviours that mirror or reflect those teachings. As an adult only you are responsible for them. In the book 'Wishful Drinking and Shockaholic' Carrie Fisher, thanks her mother for turning her into an overweight mess, and then sorting herself out to leave Carrie with an inherited problem that she in turn has to learn to deal with. A woman with distinctly unhappy experiences she never really got a handle on them, mainly because to the very end of her life (60yrs), with all her money and therapy, she never resolved them within herself. Cognitive therapy does have value, but can easily turn a model of what should be healing into a life long focus on what ails us. It hands over the responsibility for healing issues to a therapist who cannot (due to training) say, "Hey you know what? You can do something about this if you stop doing what you are doing."

It takes a strong minded individual to accept that while they may not have created their issues, they certainly did go on to create their inner demons and then to find a way to not only come to terms with that, but to put everything in its place and put themselves back together. 

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